Going Deeper on the Most Dangerous Four Letter Word Around. Love.
Love. A four letter word that stands alone. The fuel of the world, the greatest of the intangible; a principle that has been consistently reflected across every society's culture, music, and religion dating back to the beginning of human existence. -Dejanira Rene 7.16.2017
It is no secret that we are born with a clear distinguishment, that strengthens with age and experiences, between right and wrong, good and bad, and last but certainly not least: love and hate. The Greek culture does an excellent job in painting the picture of what I like to call “the four corners” of Love.
The first, and most known greek denotation of love is ‘Agape’ which translates to ‘selfless love’. This version of love is found most widespread in the teachings of Christianity, which we will further explore in an upcoming post. Although history shows the use of the word ‘Agape’ in parent-child and husband-spouse relationships, it is most commonly viewed as the symbiotic and unconditional relationship between man and God.
The second type of love is referred to as ‘Eros’. The original, latin translation of 'Eros' is ‘sexual love’. The modern Greek term ‘Erotas’ which derives from ‘Eros’ translates to ‘intimate love’. This is the love amongst man; the physical/emotional connection between individuals who are physically attracted to each other. Think boyfriend and girlfriend or husband and wife. In Greek mythology, Eros was the name of the god of love, which the Romans referred to as Cupid. We are all familiar with the ideal of Cupid. See the correlation?
Next, we have 'Philia' which can be described as a strong admiration and is used to describe genuine friendship and companionship. 'Philia' is often referred to as “brotherly love”. Its is also a general, authentic affection and can be used to describe one's enjoyment of something or admiration for the community.
Lastly, we have ‘Storge’ which is a natural or instinctive affection. This type of love is found within family relationships, heavily pertaining to parent-child relationships, vice versa. Some have given it the nickname “familial love”.
You can see how love holds a unique value in different contexts, relationships, and situations. It is no secret that you have a different relationship with your mom than you do with your friends; hence it is a different “type” of love.You will recognize that your relationship with God(If you believe in God) is different than your relationship with your child. Furthermore your relationship with your parents is different than your relationship with your significant other. You can also see how multiple types of love can be reflected within a single relationship.
Learn to appreciate the adaptability of Love and go forward in life exercising your ability to carry it and reflect it in any and every circumstance.